So, wat II.

[Chris]

Just make sure you're not this guy (http://www.ellinforest.com/forum/showpost.php?p=10865&postcount=2).


tl;dr
I met a girl the other day and I want to ask her to go out with me...

http://img7.imageshack.us/img7/3065/brickwalle.jpg
I'm here.

See, I don't know how exactly I'm going to do that. I'm probably the least social person in this whole town of 86k -- I've never done this before. (At this point, the reader should be bursting into tears of laughter)

How the hell do I approach her without making it seem really weird/awkward? What do I say/do? What do I say if she accepts, or most likely in my case, rejects?

tl;dr someone tell me what to do here before I go make a fool out of myself.

[Orange]

Unfortunately, I agree with that guy. You're asking the wrong people. Entirely wrong audience.
I've never asked anyone out. Many people here haven't either.
Honestly, go ask your mom. Or ask friends. But the internet's the wrong direction to look for love advice.
Either that or suck it up and be direct. Ask her if she wants to go out with her. Worst she can do is say no.
(I lied, she could be a total bitch and make you look terrible in front of everyone. If she's popular, she might :| )
Honestly, good luck and godspeed. You'll need it.

[Chris]

Unfortunately, I agree with that guy. You're asking the wrong people. Entirely wrong audience.
I've never asked anyone out. Many people here haven't either.
Honestly, go ask your mom. Or ask friends. But the internet's the wrong direction to look for love advice.
Either that or suck it up and be direct. Ask her if she wants to go out with her. Worst she can do is say no.
(I lied, she could be a total bitch and make you look terrible in front of everyone. If she's popular, she might :| )
Honestly, good luck and godspeed. You'll need it.
Should have explained more.
To be honest, the internet is all I've got.

I have no real friends IRL, and no one in my family is really the kind who'd give that kind of advice without it turning awkward and/or it becoming totally unrelated. (Believe me, I've tried)

Haven't been in any form of public school since the low grade school level and even then I was a loner/outcast kinda guy. (I didn't enroll in public middle/high school since the system here sucks)

I've tried to get myself more involved with other people, aka I have somewhat of a job now and I met her at this job.

tl;dr I am pathetic because all I have are internet friends.

[blitzkrieg]

become friends with her first

[Rigumaro]

tl;dr I am pathetic because all I have are internet friends.

We make you pathetic? I'm sorry :S

Now I'll be serious. TJ is right, first step is friendship. Time is your friend, just do it slowly. Smile when she looks at you.

And the main thing... Be yourself. You won't be special to her if you do the same thing that mosts guys do when they ask girls to go out with them.

[Foolinaround]

Become friends with her,try and hang out socially and see if she likes you at all,look for signs such as flirting etc.


And Orange you shouldnt assume that everyone here has never asked anyone out. We arent all losers.

[Crash]

Saying "become friends with her" isn't the best advice if one doesn't have real (?) friend IRL. I have friends IRL, but I only spend time with them in school and very rarely free-time. (I don't like going out, and when I think of going out or asking my friend to chill, I feel pathetic, lol)

Anyways, well. First thing to do is make sure she knows you. And find out if she likes you. Try to get near her or her friends. If she talks, answer or show that you like same things. Even though you might feel like she ignores you at first, it's clear that if she looks at you often when not talking to you, looks at your eyes when you are talking to her or wants to talk to you too, she likes you. (Wants to be your friend and/or crush)

If she says "no", ok. Who cares. It's life. No pain no gain. Move on, I believe you have a lot of time to date girls, get good friends IRL and have fun. I'm 16 and I rarely worry about that. As long as you enjoy your life, you have nothing to worry about.

Best of luck,
Markus!

[Chris]

We make you pathetic?


no.

you guys are awesome. probably the only reason i haven't killed myself from boredom this past 5 years.

it's just that i have no idea how to handle real life situations like this, after being out of any social contact for like 8 years.

[CAP'NSTEVE]

As long as you don't come off as a stalker, introducing yourself in a casual way would be the best way.
It's not something easy to do the first time, it's probably the equivalent to performing heart surgery.
John probably knows what he's talking about, considering he's the only one 16+ here that likes chicks.

[Daniel]

considering he's the only one 16+ here that likes chicks.

hey. Hey. HEY. WHATS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN.

[Lajsen]

hey. Hey. HEY. WHATS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN.
That, I mean. WHAT THE FUCK. 8(
(casper here)

[Chris]

so I was just talking with her, then her boyfriend called. really unexpected and embarrasing for me. ><;

I slowly excused myself out of the room and here I am now.

i fail.

[blitzkrieg]

wait it out bro

[Chris]

wait it out bro

no i refuse.

it's weird now.
regardless though, i just hope we can be friends or something.

[Orange]

Yeah, be a friend for her, especially when she needs you. (but not too much of just a friend, or else you'll lose her as she thinks of you as that friend-who-is-just-a-friend-nothing-more)
Good luck, and try making some real friends. The thing you need to remember about internet friends is you have not met them in real life and probably never will, so you never know who they really are.
And Orange you shouldnt assume that everyone here has never asked anyone out. We arent all losers.
True, but many people here haven't. Most people here spend their childhood and teenage years (or more) in front of a computer screen playing games and wasting away their lives. =/ I know I have.

[CAP'NSTEVE]

hey. Hey. HEY. WHATS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN.

IT'S THE TRUTH UNTIL PROVEN OTHERWISE!

[Chris]

Yeah, be a friend for her, especially when she needs you. (but not too much of just a friend, or else you'll lose her as she thinks of you as that friend-who-is-just-a-friend-nothing-more)

To be honest, I don't care lol.
I'm only 16, I'm still young; there's plenty of other girls out there.
Friendship > getting into her pants

[Foolinaround]

Good man,the best thing to do is if she friend zones you,stay friends,as time goes by she can hook you up with other girls basically playing wingman.

[Chris]

Good man,the best thing to do is if she friend zones you,stay friends,as time goes by she can hook you up with other girls basically playing wingman.

Not really into that whole "set up/hook up" thing, seems awkward to me.

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[Hazzy]

Does she use the internet much? Be kinda funny if she stumbled upon this thread....

[Chris]

Does she use the internet much? Be kinda funny if she stumbled upon this thread....

I don't know.



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But she doesn't seem like the kind who hangs out on the internet a lot.

[CAP'NSTEVE]

I don't know.



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But she doesn't seem like the kind who hangs out on the internet a lot.

There's probably 1/1000 chance a girl you know plays maple, and then 1/1000 chance of them playing KMS, if not a lower chance.
Then again...your luck is shown by your pigmy record.

[Steve]

^ Lmao Steve.

I'd say try to talk to her when you're at work. Crack jokes and make her laugh; you're a funny guy. Maybe make an excuse to get her phone number or MSN, and then talk to her a lot, but don't seem desperate. Even if she doesn't like you now, she may like you eventually if you're always there to talk to and be with. It's better to get real close to her and find out more about her than reacting too suddenly. It took me two months, it might take you more or less, try it.

tl;dr wait it out & get close to her.

[Reflexx]

haha chris, ur hilarious. usually i fell for girls who were already my friends, but in a situation like yours, where she doesnt even know you exist, id say the hardest part is getting to meet her. You said you met her at work, so try start a conversation with her. Biggest mistake you can make is being too direct when you first talk to her, for example, "Hi im Chris, whats your name?!" lmao cuz that just says ur a fcking loser. One way to check if she is aware of ur existence(lawl) is try talking to yourself when your next to her, not talk to urself as in have a conversation with ur conscious cuz that marks u as a fcking loser too. when ur next to her, just be like, "Ugh 5 more hours to go" and maybe she'll catch on and say something back, like "i know! im so tired."

EDIT: she has a boyfriend?! thats even better, means shes not flirting with other guys, so wait it out and catch her when shes having a bad day with her boyfriend or an argument, she will go on forever about how he's such a jerk and compliment u in the end for listening to her problems, thats how i got my last ex-girl...

My ex: "Terry ur so awesome at listening to my problems! Lemme treat u to icecream!" rofl

[Chris]

ok lol

I talk to her regularly when she's here, which is every other day.
Though she told me yesterday that she's leaving in september for college...in a land far, far away. (She's 18 lol)

So at this point I'd rather just be a friend to her and keep my options open for other girls. '_'




and lol steve, they might as well rename Murphy's Law to Chris' Life.
"Anything that can go wrong, does go wrong, and even wronger than imagined"
QQ

[azzybish]

Chris i dont understand why you beat yourself up so much, from your pictures you look pretty decent tbh.

Just go for it, 2 or 3 months of happiness would do you good, especially with your current attitude.

[Chris]

Chris i dont understand why you beat yourself up so much, from your pictures you look pretty decent tbh.

Just go for it, 2 or 3 months of happiness would do you good, especially with your current attitude.

/insecurites.exe
/inability_to_socialize.exe


all running, at the moment.

and it's not like I -want- to be like this.

[Jess]

Honey, close them? :O

[azzybish]

Open task manager, click on processes and end them.

[Imitazion]

It may be harsh, but;
Chris, man the fuck up. I believe we would help if we could, but I'm convinced that we have no ability to.
Grab yourself by the balls, and go out there. Like Azzy said, some monthes of social happiness wouldn't hurt you.

[Orange]

It may be harsh, but;
Chris, man the fuck up. I believe we would help if we could, but I'm convinced that we have no ability to.
Grab yourself by the balls, and go out there. Like Azzy said, some monthes of social happiness wouldn't hurt you.
I love you for your directness. You, me, back alley, NOW.

[Chris]

Honey, close them? :O
If only it was that easy, jess. :P

Open task manager, click on processes and end them.

lol'd




and guys, you don't have to keep repeating the same thing over and over again. I get it, quit QQing and step outside.
for someone like me, it's really not that simple, but I'm slowly working on it, k.